Assemble the Right Team

I don't like being put into a box, I never have done, I never will.

 

I have come across a tendency amongst some professionals to define me by my age rather than to see me as an individual. For that reason I look very hard to find ‘right minded’ professionals to help me lead the life I want, to stay in shape to do the sports I love, and to look and feel good, too.

 

I don't like being put into a box, I never have done, I never will.

 

I have come across a tendency amongst some professionals to define me by my age rather than to see me as an individual. For that reason I look very hard to find ‘right minded’ professionals to help me lead the life I want, to stay in shape to do the sports I love, and to look and feel good, too.

 

At an earlier point in my life, working in a team amongst people who thought and lived as I did and whose judgement I trusted, it was always very easy for me to find the right professional when I needed one. From hairdressers to doctors, I would know someone who could offer me advice, could recommend me to people they knew and had experience of - that gave me great confidence.  

 

Now I work from home, no longer as part of a group of like-minded people with all the connections that gave me, and the people I do now come across day to day do not necessarily share my outlook on life. I therefore find reliable information less readily available – it’s more trial and error.

 

Recently, as a treat, I thought I'd pamper myself with a facial. When I suggested to the beautician that I wanted a re-hydration facial due to the amount of sport I do outdoors, she had a look of horror that I hadn’t asked for an anti-ageing option, which she tried to recommend with a dumb-show of vigorous ‘lifting’ hand-movements to either side of her face. She was shocked that I might want to look healthy and good but without denying my age, rather than trying to look younger - a somewhat deflating experience. She was the wrong beautician!

 

At the other end of the spectrum, a trip to the doctor recently was almost as depressing. I explained that I had knee pain, and the doctor, without lifting her eyes from the stats on her computer screen, told me that it was the price I had to pay for doing so much sport - and particularly at my age! Change the doctor! Now I have found a physio with an appreciation of how much sport means to me, who has not accepted that the pain is a by-product of age but who has found the specific cause of it and has given me the appropriate remedial exercises to get me pain-free again.

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It is always important to find the right people to work with, but I believe it becomes even more important as you get older, especially if you're trying to swim against the tide. I never used my youth to excuse my immaturity when I was young, I’m certainly not going to let someone else dismiss me now because of 'chronology'! If a professional gives me a look that says ‘what do you expect at your age?’ then I know they are not the person to help me reach my goals - so I’ll find the one who is!